Sunan an-Nasa'i, Book 26, Hadith 25 (In-Book) ⓘ
Narrated Jabir: It was narrated that Jabir said: "The Messenger of Allah met me and said: 'O Jabir, have you got married to a woman since I last saw you?' I said: 'Yes, O Messenger of Allah.' He said: 'To a virgin or to a previously-married woman?' I said: 'To a previously-married woman.' He said: 'Why not a virgin, so she could play with you?'"
أَخْبَرَنَا الْحَسَنُ بْنُ قَزَعَةَ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ، - وَهُوَ ابْنُ حَبِيبٍ - عَنِ ابْنِ جُرَيْجٍ، عَنْ عَطَاءٍ، عَنْ جَابِرٍ، قَالَ لَقِيَنِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَقَالَ " يَا جَابِرُ هَلْ أَصَبْتَ امْرَأَةً بَعْدِي " . قُلْتُ نَعَمْ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ . قَالَ " أَبِكْرًا أَمْ أَيِّمًا " . قُلْتُ أَيِّمًا . قَالَ " فَهَلاَّ بِكْرًا تُلاَعِبُكَ " .
also referenced under: Hadith 3220 (Reference) & Volume 4, Book 26, Hadith 3222 (DarusSalam)