Not Rude

It is by Allah’s mercy that you were gentle with them. Had you been harsh and hard-hearted, they would have abandoned you. So, pardon them, seek forgiveness for them, and consult them in matters. Once you decide, put your trust in Allah.

3:159It was by the mercy of Allah that thou wast lenient with them (O Muhammad), for if thou hadst been stern and fierce of heart they would have dispersed from round about thee. So pardon them and ask forgiveness for them and consult with them upon the conduct of affairs. And when thou art resolved, then put thy trust in Allah. Lo! Allah loveth those who put their trust (in Him).